Today, many couples set up a wedding present list or gift list to ensure they receive the things they need and to avoid duplication. Any guest who wants to give the couple a gift simply asks for the gift list and chooses something appropriate to their tastes and budget, which is then ticked off to ensure nobody else buys the same.

Setting up a gift list is simple and many stores will be only too happy to help. Here are a few tips:

Make a list of the things you will need. Include items across the price range so people on a limited budget will find something suitable.

Visit the stores you wish to use. Many will send out a card to each of your guests letting them know a gift list is available and including details of shopping in person, by telephone or on line.

Organise the list about three months before the wedding. Friends and relatives may send a gift as soon as they hear of the impending marriage. They don't have to wait for the wedding itself.

Many friends and relatives will contact the bride or her mother asking for a list. Have copies available, for their information.

Traditionally, the bride's parents presented the couple with bed linen for their new home.

Choose gifts for the home that both bride and groom will enjoy rather than personalised gifts such as jewellery.

Make a careful note of what you have received and who sent it. Begin the task of sending thank you notes early and keep on top of it, rather than wait until after the honeymoon.

At the reception you should lay out the presents for the guests to see.

It is considered bad form to ask for money, although some guests may prefer to send you a cheque to help you begin your married life.

Some guests may prefer to ignore the list and give you something with a special meaning for you and them.

There are dedicated wedding list companies that can offer a wider choice of gifts.